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A Parent's Perspective — A Success Story
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By Julie from Indiana (Parent)
Published: May 3 2010

They do happen! Be brave! Stay the course! Many of us as parents are fearful when our son or daughter is diagnosed with a learning disability. Will they succeed in school? At work? Will they make friends? What does it take? My son, Scott, is currently 14 years old and in the 8th grade at a school for children with language learning differences. He was identified at an early age as being severely dyslexic, dysgraphic, and having significant visual perceptual difficulties. Intensive intervention was recommended — but no one knew how or where to get the appropriate help.

Getting the right kind of help, at the right time, and with the right people, is essential to seeing progress. Scott's current school and tutoring is entirely Orton-Gillingham based. He is completing his fourth year of this specialized education. This school is an answered prayer — a miracle for him. Not a day goes by that his parents don’t breathe a sigh of relief, and feel grateful. But that was after many blind alleys.

When Scott started fifth grade, he was falling behind miserably. He was performing at least two years behind his peers. He went to school every day with a headache and a stomachache. Often there were tears, and he even went to a doctor to see if he was clinically depressed. Since pre-school Scott had received special help in classes, but it wasn’t the right kind of help.

He was labeled by the public school system as mildly mentally handicapped, and was placed in a cross-categorical classroom for most of the day. Joining his regular class sporadically was difficult. Friendships were difficult, as he felt different than the other kids. Scott experienced so much stress during the day that he was exhausted after school and withdrew from social situations. Outside activities just took too much energy. In the fourth and fifth grade, I would re-teach him concepts covered during the day, and then homework would last up to three painful hours - with much frustration for both parent and child.

After just a few months at his new school, Scott's personality began to emerge. He looked forward to school, and his energy level after school sky-rocketed. He now lifts weights. He's part of a swim team. He has friends both at school and through his after school activities. His homework is actually done without any assistance from me. He is self-assured and comfortable with himself. Reading is still hard work, but he can read anything he might need to in the future. His written expression is coming along nicely, and his confidence continues to grow.

He is optimistic and hopeful about the future, and not ashamed to be dyslexic. It's simply one aspect of who he is. He hopes to be a psychologist with prison inmates, or the next Dr. Phil, as he identifies with people who have obstacles to overcome and desires to lessen their struggle. Due to his difficulties, and then being given the tools to unlock his potential, Scott has developed patience and compassion towards others and himself. He is now eager and ready to try his wings in a regular school setting.

Scott is a testimony to the change that can happen when children with learning disabilities receive the right kind of help, in a timely fashion. Be committed to finding the right resources and people who see the potential in your child — and stay hopeful!

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This story originally appeared in the IDEA Parent Guide.

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5 Comments

  1. Hi, Stephanie. I have question for you. Can your daughter memorize location things? If yes, then have her write spelling words down on paper and memorizing one by use this strategy. Strategy is that you copy with looking, and then write word again without looking. Then edit word, and then you repeat last two steps until you have same word as wrote the first time.

    Posted by: Mack on Friday, 21 October 2011

  2. A Parent's Perspective -- A Success Story
    Hi,my daughter is in grade 6 and has difficulty with her written work and spellings? Can anyone tell me how I can help my child impove her written work and her spellings?

    Posted by: Sarita on Wednesday, 20 April 2011

  3. A Parent's Perspective -- A Success Story
    Hi,my child is in grade 6 and has difficulty in spellings can anyone suggest how I can help her?

    Posted by: Sarita on Wednesday, 20 April 2011

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    Oh my gosh....when I started to read this article I thought that is my child. Fifth grade is when we really hit the wall. He is an emotional child and he is always upset and says he is just dumb and doesn't get anything. We are fighting with the school right now to even get him tested. I strongly believe that he is dyslexic. There are many signs. I just don't know where to ge for help to even get started. It is so frustrating that I am puting up a fight to get him tested. Anyone....please point me in the right direction. Thanks!

    Posted by: Stephanie on Monday, 22 November 2010

  5. A Parent's Perspective -- A Success Story
    Hi, you don't explain why he went to another school, was it just moving up, or did he go to a private school? Thanks

    Posted by: cheri on Thursday, 09 September 2010

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