Bullying Hurts Everyone, Not Just the Victim
Would you knowingly allow your child to be in this situation? For six to eight hours each day in school? On the ball field during what should be time of fun and release of tension? And would you have them go back to these situations day after day, week after week, mistakenly assuming that supervising adults were making sure that all was well? Of course not!
And it’s not just about the act of bullying…It’s about the culture, environment and community within which bullying takes place. How confident are you that your child will feel accepted and be safe in places and situations where, for whatever reason, people (children and adults) don’t seem to value them as individuals and see no need to speak up when they are being targeted? Addressing the problem of bullying is much more than having a parent-child conversation. It’s something that needs to be addressed in partnership with parents, school personnel and members of the community at large.
Don’t Assume There’s Not a Problem—Ask Questions!
- Ask your child if he or she has ever been bullied. How did it made them feel? What do they wish could have been done to prevent it from happening?
- Ask friends or family members whether they recall having been bullied or witnessed someone else being bullied. (Don’t be surprised when they recall, years later, in vivid detail, the impact it had on them.)
- Ask yourself how sure you are that your child has not been involved in bullying, as a victim, perpetrator, or observer. Does your child understand his or her rights and responsibilities as individuals and as members of the community, to guarantee that bullying is not in any way tolerated?
And then what should you do? Adapting the 2010 slogan adopted by the U.S. Dept. of Homeland Security,…“Be on the lookout for bullying, and if you see something, say something, do something.”
NCLD Says “No” to Bullying!Share your story about how bullying has affected you or someone you know:
- Walk a Mile in Their Shoes: Bullying and the Child with Special Needs
- PACER Center’s Kids Against Bullying
- PACER Center’s Teens Against Bullying